HOW TO TURN YOUR BLOGGING DOUBTS & FEARS INTO POSITIVE ACTIONS
When it comes to blogging, despite the fact it’s technically something I started as a hobby and it’s something I absolutely love to do, I do often find myself being hard on myself, doubting my ability and my content, comparing myself to others successes and generally just being a little hard on myself. It’s part and parcel with my personality (always striving for success) but I don’t think I’m the only one who works their socks off, but is never quite happy with what they’re achieving? Am I?
To fight my negative thoughts, I am always trying to celebrate the positive achievements I have made, focusing on my own goals and journey rather than comparing myself to others and generally trying to be a little less hard on myself. And I thought today I’d share my advice in case you too, ever find yourself in that negative place full of self-doubt & depreciation.
These tips are all about channeling those negative feelings, those doubts and fears into positive actions.
TURN YOUR DOUBTS AND FEARS INTO POSITIVE ACTIONS
#1 COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS? BE INSPIRED
Firstly, no matter how confident we are, there always comes a time where we can’t help but compare ourselves to others. Whether that’s other peoples style, their successes, their content or just the entire package. We lose track of our own goals and journey, and start to compare ourselves and our achievements to that of others. We all know it isn’t healthy nor productive, but sometimes we can’t help but fall into that trap of self doubt and comparison. But fear not … you can channel those negative moments into positives simply by adjusting your point of view. Rather than comparing, simply think about the things you like about their site, their style, their collaboration successes, what is it that works, what do you like, what can you learn. Stop comparing yourself to others and instead learn and take inspiration. This does not mean copy … simply get inspired.
And most importantly, as i’ve said before “don’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else show reel” …
#2 FEELING A LACK OF SUCCESS? SET NEW GOALS
I’m constantly comparing my achievements to that of other bigger or more successful bloggers, whether it’s the brands they work with, the frequency of their partnerships or just the coverage they get from other brands. Despite the fact I too work with incredible brands regularly and have been fortunate enough to have my own successes, there are times when I forget to focus on my own goals, ambitions and successes and I start comparing myself to others.
But it’s important not to let comparison distract you from your own achievements and goals.
It’s important when thinking about ‘success’ to ensure you’re thinking about success based on your own journey and your own goals … success is subjective, broad and largely an intangible thought, so it’s critical you add some context … rather than striving for success, you strive to achieve set things which you’ve defined as important to your own journey. Rather than feel disheartened by any comparable lack of success, set yourself new goals and tailor your strategy to help you on your journey.
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#3 PHOTOGRAPHY NOT GOOD ENOUGH? UP YOUR CREATIVITY
Blogging and social media has become so much about photography that it’s no doubt we can find ourselves not feeling good enough or worrying our imagery isn’t the best quality. I for one am always striving to improve my photography and have spent the last few years teaching myself everything I can about shooting street style esque photography … any doubts or worry I had about the quality of my own photos has been channeled into motivation to learn more, into trying new techniques, shooting new angles or new composition style. I create mood boards of imagery I love, I get inspired and use this to test and learn new creative ways of shooting photos for my blog. I constantly try and learn more and try more … for me the unique creativity of my blog and my photography is super important, and so channeling my self depreciation for my own photography, into motivation to keep improving is a positive outtake for an otherwise negative thought process.
Simply start by creating mood boards full of imagery you love or feel inspired by. Then just get playing, testing and learning with your own photography.
Shooting should be fun. Remember that. It’ll show.
#4 NO TIME? ADAPT YOUR STRATEGY
‘If only I had more time’, ‘if only I was full time too’ … time. Or the lack there of, is a real nightmare when it comes to blogging. I’m always wishing I had more time, free time to make the most of sunny days when I’m actually stuck in the office, time to shoot all over London and not just locally, time to shoot ‘days out’ rather than just looks, time to shoot the features I love to read, time to write 20 posts in advance … just time.
What I’ve learnt is rather than stress about a lack of time, simply adapt to the time you have. Tweak your blogging strategy and process to suit what time you do have available, maximize those days when you have free time, don’t worry about the days you don’t, prepare as much as you can in advance to avoid stressful moments.
Rather than let time be your barrier, simply adapt your strategy so that you are maximising the time you have, perhaps it means dedicating a Saturday morning to shooting photos, or perhaps it means adjusting your blog frequency to once or twice a week rather than daily.
Whatever it is, create a schedule and strategy that fits your lifestyle and your time. You’ll find it far more enjoyable & stop turning what should be fun into a chore.
Do you ever suffer from self doubt or find yourself comparing yourself to others? Did these tips help you?
Trudy says
okay all of this is what I felt today! This really helped x
Trudy | TrudyJohanna
melissa says
I’m so glad it helped Trudy. You’re not alone, we all have those days :)
Mel x
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Marta says
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Jessica says
Great tips, Time is a huge one for me, it feels as if there is never enough of it ! I have learned to work with what I have though. P.s. I love that sweater so much <3
XOXO
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Abbie E. says
great tips!
Abbie E.
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Quinn says
I love this post, girl! It’s so easy to be too hard on yourself when blogging. These tips are very insightful.
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dominique says
I’m really enjoying reading your blog. So much great advice and very inspiring. Thank you!
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Griselda says
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