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THREE WAYS TO ELIMINATE THE COMPARISON TRAP

November 13, 2016

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How To Focus On Yourself & Your Own Blog & End The Comparison Trap


The topic of comparing ones success to another’s is something I’ve touched on lots of times on my blog, whether it’s sharing the reasons why you should stop comparing yourself to others, how to stop or the difficult moments Ive faced on my blogging journey when I’ve allowed self doubt and comparison to take over and how i’ve benefitted from changing my attitude & focussing less on others. It’s a topic I’m passionate about and it’s a topic I feel is super pertinent in the business of blogging.

In an industry blooming so rapidly, it’s easy to admire the work of others and the success they’re achieving and feel left behind and like a failure in comparison. That campaign you didn’t get, those followers you don’t have or that BLOG growth you’re still wishing for. Whatever the point of comparison I’m certain it’s something we all face, especially if you’re a workaholic and always want to achieve the best you can (ahem).

My self doubt is directly driven by comparing my work and successes to others so finding ways to avoid this obsession is something I’ve been working on for a while. I’m not perfect yet, I still have those moments where I feel disheartened by my relative lack of achievements in blogging, but overall I’ve learnt and tried a number of tactics to help me stay focussed on my own journey that I thought I’d share today.


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THREE WAYS TO ELIMINATE THE COMPARISON TRAP

Stop Consuming Others Work

This is bold and not something I’ve quite managed to adopt, but it’s something I heard a little while back in a podcast from another blogger and have seen crop up a few times since. The biggest driver of self doubt and criticism is focussing on other people and not yourself. So what if you just completely cut out the others? You’re forced to focus on yourself. You are your only point of comparison. Truth be told I love reading other blogs, so I couldn’t just cut them out, but what I have tried to do is simply read for enjoyment and not for competitor analysis.

Define Your Own Benchmarks

The issue with self comparison is that you lose focus on your own journey. Finding ways to bring the focus back on to you and your own journey is key, and one key way to do that is to set what success means to you, and only focus on measuring that. Very recently I significantly changed my attitude to blogging and in turn my measure of success too … since redefining what success is to me, Ive found myself enjoying blogging more, not getting so down on myself (in fact I’ve had some great ‘successes’ that I might have overlooked in the past) and spending more time working on the future of my blog than that of others.

Accept There’s Room For Everyone

Perhaps one of the most liberating moments in your blogging career will be the moment you truly accept it’s not a competition. Unless you’re looking to take 100% share of all potential readers and views (which even google doesn’t have) then there really is room for everyone and a big enough audience to go around. Liv wrote a lovely post to this vein not long ago, and her words were so true. What will drive your success and help carve your space in this crazy old world is integrity, authenticity and originality. Don’t try and be someone else. Be you. That’s the content and space only you can own.


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Read More Tips On This Topic. How To Stop Comparing Your Blog Success To Others . Why I Changed My Attitude To Blogging & How It Helped My Blog Success . Define Your Own Blog Success . What Is Blog Success? . What Makes a Blog Become Successful? .


Do you ever find yourself struggling with self comparison and self doubt as a result? I’d love to hear if these tips have helped you and how you currently cope and try and avoid the comparison trap?

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  • 14 Comments

    1. sheridan grady says

      November 13, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      These photos are gorgeous! i totally agree with all of your points, there is definitely room for us all! x

      http://www.shayholly.co.uk

    2. Neeltje | Thoughts in Style says

      November 13, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      Loved this!
      http://www.thoughtsinstyle.com/

    3. Abigail says

      November 13, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      Love these tips. I really want to focus on my own goals in the upcoming year and need these kinds of reminders!

      Abigail Alice x

    4. Charmaine says

      November 13, 2016 at 6:38 pm

      The first tip is also what I struggle with, but reading blogs is also my favourite past time so I can’t stop it. :) Great photos and post!
      – Charmaine
      http://charmainenyw.com

    5. Michelle says

      November 13, 2016 at 11:22 pm

      It is always inspirational to read others blogs and points and a good source of knowledge…..but I agree setting your own benchmarks is the key. Love the photos as always. x

    6. Ollyvia Laura says

      November 14, 2016 at 2:05 am

      TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOUR THOUGHT <3

      // MY BEAUTY & TRAVEL BLOG //

    7. Margaret says

      November 14, 2016 at 3:18 am

      I like that you include ‘there’s room for everyone’ cus there really is! And yes, sometimes we just get too harsh on ourselves, but that’s okay, we’ve got that time. Just to accept that there’s room for improvement and yet we ourselves are special. Hope you have a nice week!

      xx Margaret
      http://www.maleemaleehong.com | http://www.facebook.com/maleemaleehong

    8. Aleksandra says

      November 14, 2016 at 9:01 am

      Many writers stop reading when they write their books… May not be that easy in a continuous process like blogging :)

    9. Caitlin Lindquist says

      November 15, 2016 at 12:19 am

      I love your bohemian dress! Super cute. xx Caitlin Dash of Darling

    10. Ellese says

      November 15, 2016 at 1:03 am

      I love these thoughts and so appreciate them. Sometimes I get concerned that I am dreaming too big and will I ever get to the same level as the big bloggers. Then I snap out of it and remind myself that we can all do whatever we believe in! No dream is impossible, and like you said, there is room for everyone. Thanks for sharing dear. Xo, Ellese

      Rock.Paper.Glam.

    11. Monika says

      November 15, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      Lovely photos!

      Love,
      http://www.thestyleventure.com/2016/11/14/today/

    12. Harleen says

      November 15, 2016 at 7:15 pm

      This is such a great reminder to take a pause and take a breath to enjoy this amazing blogging journey and all it has to offer. Thanks for the share!

      – Harleen
      My Eunoia | @harleenbola

    13. Hayley says

      November 21, 2016 at 4:19 pm

      Loved this post lady, so accurate and some wise words! It really is hard to eliminate that thought of not feeling good enough and focusing on others success rather than you’re own – great post! :)

      Hayley xo
      http://www.frockmeimfamous.com

    14. tuky says

      August 2, 2019 at 12:51 pm

      Ugh, this is definitely a bad habit I fall to constantly… telling myself it’s “self-care” despite knowing the lame trend behind it. Thanks for your helpful post! ?

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