How To Focus On Yourself & Your Own Blog & End The Comparison Trap
The topic of comparing ones success to another’s is something I’ve touched on lots of times on my blog, whether it’s sharing the reasons why you should stop comparing yourself to others, how to stop or the difficult moments Ive faced on my blogging journey when I’ve allowed self doubt and comparison to take over and how i’ve benefitted from changing my attitude & focussing less on others. It’s a topic I’m passionate about and it’s a topic I feel is super pertinent in the business of blogging.
In an industry blooming so rapidly, it’s easy to admire the work of others and the success they’re achieving and feel left behind and like a failure in comparison. That campaign you didn’t get, those followers you don’t have or that BLOG growth you’re still wishing for. Whatever the point of comparison I’m certain it’s something we all face, especially if you’re a workaholic and always want to achieve the best you can (ahem).
My self doubt is directly driven by comparing my work and successes to others so finding ways to avoid this obsession is something I’ve been working on for a while. I’m not perfect yet, I still have those moments where I feel disheartened by my relative lack of achievements in blogging, but overall I’ve learnt and tried a number of tactics to help me stay focussed on my own journey that I thought I’d share today.
THREE WAYS TO ELIMINATE THE COMPARISON TRAP
Stop Consuming Others Work
This is bold and not something I’ve quite managed to adopt, but it’s something I heard a little while back in a podcast from another blogger and have seen crop up a few times since. The biggest driver of self doubt and criticism is focussing on other people and not yourself. So what if you just completely cut out the others? You’re forced to focus on yourself. You are your only point of comparison. Truth be told I love reading other blogs, so I couldn’t just cut them out, but what I have tried to do is simply read for enjoyment and not for competitor analysis.
Define Your Own Benchmarks
The issue with self comparison is that you lose focus on your own journey. Finding ways to bring the focus back on to you and your own journey is key, and one key way to do that is to set what success means to you, and only focus on measuring that. Very recently I significantly changed my attitude to blogging and in turn my measure of success too … since redefining what success is to me, Ive found myself enjoying blogging more, not getting so down on myself (in fact I’ve had some great ‘successes’ that I might have overlooked in the past) and spending more time working on the future of my blog than that of others.
Accept There’s Room For Everyone
Perhaps one of the most liberating moments in your blogging career will be the moment you truly accept it’s not a competition. Unless you’re looking to take 100% share of all potential readers and views (which even google doesn’t have) then there really is room for everyone and a big enough audience to go around. Liv wrote a lovely post to this vein not long ago, and her words were so true. What will drive your success and help carve your space in this crazy old world is integrity, authenticity and originality. Don’t try and be someone else. Be you. That’s the content and space only you can own.
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Do you ever find yourself struggling with self comparison and self doubt as a result? I’d love to hear if these tips have helped you and how you currently cope and try and avoid the comparison trap?